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What if you like weird porn? What if your partner asks?

Should you feel bad about it? And should you lie. 

If anyone is being harmed in the porn – not fine. We become desensitised to imagery that we consume, affecting our dopamine reward system and potentially creating a need for more extreme or novel sights to turn us on. 

There is however a grey area between light and severe bdsm. Use your judgement, just because people consent to harming themselves and other people, is that something we really want to endorse? A bit of pain can be hot; self harm is not.

but what about random niche fetishes? 

 

Sometimes we get turned on precisely because we know we’re not supposed to be. If you have a bizarre browser history every now and then, don’t worry, humans are odd. But if it starts to become a bigger part of your life, you watch it very frequently, worry about it or feel like you’re carrying around a secret; re assess. 

If you sense something is bad for you, avoid it. Easier said than done sure, but we all have incredibly strong will power when we put it into action.

And ultimately, we want to aim for real world satisfaction and unravelling why we like the odd things that we do, so that we can heal ourselves if necessary.

let’s see what the wonderful world of reddit had to say to this concerned dude. 

 

Almost everyone told him to lie, or at least neglect to tell the truth. There’s no harm in withholding information from your partner about some private things (within reason), but if you feel guilty about it, this guilt can leak out in other ways in your relationship. So a straight up lie is never advisable. And maybe you’ll be fine to talk about it later down the line; you don’t want to stitch up your future self.

PS. ssbbw stands for super size big beautiful woman

So basically, today my girlfriend of almost a year brought up porn in a conversation, which isn’t that unusual. Our sex life is pretty healthy and we’re both attracted to each other. However today, she asked what kind of porn I’m in to. I stalled and managed to get away from the topic without answering, but she’ll definitely bring it up again soon. Basically, I’m in to ssbbw type porn (really fat women). She is by no means fat, she’s actually pretty skinny (as am I). I’m really only in to fat women as a porn type thing and I’m absolutely attracted to her, but I’m worried she might take it the wrong way.

Depending on how old you guys are, I’d just say tell it like you did here.

My bf is into full figured women in porn. I’m not the body type of what he looks at online, but I’m not shaken by it. He’s not the body type of what I watch on porn either. A real person is way different than porn, and the connection during sex is different than what turns me on while watching something. Idk, I don’t see why someone would get upset.

Also, I like watching incest porn. I told my bf that with full confidence that he wouldn’t think I’m attracted to a family member. It really is just fantasy stuff. Body type or situation or anything.

Soften it up: Babe, I’m into furry incest porn. Eww, that’s gross. PSYCH! It’s only fat chicks.

I disagree with all the comments saying not to tell her. Well you don’t have to tell her right away and you currently have the right to keep it private, I think that if it’s a big part of your sexual life eventually you can feel safe telling her. If she judges you or treat you bad unfortunately that’s her issue and not your fault.

I think it’s actually very common to masturbate to porn that you would never do in real life. I would never in my life be double-teamed or have a gang bang but I enjoy masturbating to it because a fantasy is just that. A fantasy. I would explain it to her that way and if you continue to be weirded out by it then that’s just something she has to deal with

It’s a trap

This site may be useful for anyone in a similar situation who is worried about telling their partner what they do and don’t like: mojoupgrade.com

They also ask whether your partner has a ‘hole’ or a ‘pole’ which I like and will probably steal.

don’t beat around the bush

 

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