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can sex toys, squirting or fingering f*ck with your diaphragm?

A reader got in touch and asked, so I spoke to an experienced diaphragm fitter to find out.
 
Me: Squirting comes from your urethra (wee hole); so wouldn’t be a problem right?
 

Yes, squirting itself shouldn’t affect a correctly sized and properly placed diaphragm.

And fingering wouldn’t tend to be an issue?

Vaginal fingering could be an issue, depending on how invasive it is.

Before any fingering begins the hands should be washed and nails checked to remove any sharp edges that could cut or puncture the dome of a diaphragm.

Any intimate lubricant used should be water based. I use YES lube. (Do not use ones that have silicone or oils of any kind in them as silicone and vegetable and petroleum oils will ruin a silicone diaphragm. It will take a bit longer than oils destroying a latex diaphragm, but it will happen.) And before a partner is permitted; the diaphragm wearer should finger themselves first to see what they do and don’t enjoy with the diaphragm in place – so they can guide their partner.

I enjoy having a finger between the back of my pubic bone and the diaphragm rim so that the rim can be gently pushed deeper so it moves back and forth across my G-spot as part of foreplay. But when that happens, I check the placement and seal afterward before he enters me.

And I don’t allow fingering (when I’m fertile) after an unprotected man has ejaculated in me.

But what about using toys and a diaphragm, might they get in the way of each other?

As far as using toys it depends on what they are. Wearing Ben Wa balls or a borosilicate (Pyrex) glass or a jade vaginal egg shouldn’t be a problem and wearing Ben Wa balls with a diaphragm during penile/vaginal sex can be pleasurable for some.

And doing Kegels with a ball set when a diaphragm’s inserted is a step up in vaginal training. (boot camp for your vagina!)

Manual and electrical toys, vibrators and dildos, should be used with caution. Used on the shaft of the clitoris there is no problem. However, toys inserted in the vagina need to be very well lubed as half the wearer’s natural arousal lube is trapped behind the dome and an un-lubed manual or electrical toy head could drag on and displace or wear a thin spot or hole in the dome.

With my diaphragm still inserted I try to avoid using a manual or an electrical toy in my vagina until at least six hours after the last act of penetrative intercourse with an unprotected man. After six hours it’s safe to remove the diaphragm so I Kegel as much of the remaining coital discharge out as I can (it’s never possible to get it all the first time) and insert another diaphragm with spermicide in the dome so I’m good-to-go again!

excellent!

 

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