I’ve had problems with my sex life in past relationships, and thought ‘Ah if I was single l could be having loads of sex whenever and with whomever I want.’ But as soon as I was single I thought ‘Sex is cool and all, but having someone to cuddle in the morning is also pretty fucking rad.’
So you want it. And they don’t. Or you can feel them looking at you with hopeful eyes, but you sure as hell aren’t in the mood. Again. But no fear, the beauty of this issue is that there are so many solutions
‘Yeah sex is cool but have you ever sat in darkness wondering why you’re not good enough’. The research is telling us that teenagers who use hormonal contraceptives are more likely to start taking antidepressants, or worse.
Hearing other people’s trials and triumphs helps us all feel more sane. It’s been easier since I’ve learnt to let go a little. I grew up religious so I’ve always associated sex with guilt.
Don’t watch porn when you’re having the exploratory wanks, because it will interrupt your focus. The more comfortable you are with your own body, the more assertive you can be. Communication is key but only in the right way
Women try too hard to make theirs tiny and cute and soft, whereas men feel like theirs aren’t allowed to be tiny and cute and soft. When in fact, we should all just acknowledge that YES our bits are pretty freaking mad to behold, but they are also lovely.
If you’re horny enough to be having more sex straight away; pausing for one sec to feel your diaphragm and get some more goo involved isn’t going to ruin the vibe. Or you just put on a silky dressing gown, saunter to the bathroom and leave them hanging, and return for more once you are spermicide’d up.
It’s important to understand that there is a learning curve when starting to use cervical barriers and that the most failures occur within the first few months of use. We urge members new to using a diaphragm or cap to use another effective method of contraception
Barbie and Ken’s flappy cumholes seem to be missing. Some people are squeamish. Some people have had bad experiences. And we all tend to like what we are accustomed to.
Asking for a friend… I spoke to an experienced diaphragm fitter about sex toys, squirting and some very specific fingering methods. A reader recently got a diaphragm and had a few questions for us
Love is a set of feelings and neurochemical changes but it is also NECESSARILY a set of actions, of proofs. “…a mediocre w*nk that just so happens to be..”
ever had any worries about sex or orgasms? (care to elaborate)
Yes. Often find it hard to finish from sex or blowjobs.
things you like during sex (or maybe you’re unsure)? I have no idea anymore! I used to love focusing on the pleasure of my partner, increasing their desire and pleasure would turn me on,
Went through a period of anxiety when younger on would I be able to get it up or not. Was I “good enough” at sex, able to pleasure a woman and so on. Thank god that passed.
what do you or have you struggled with in your current relationship / single life?
Finding the intimacy to fully relax during sex, and not be concerned of what they’re thinking
The contraceptive injection’s primary purpose is to allow people to have ‘safe’ sex. … it’s not really your casual “I just don’t want to get knocked up at a house party” type vibe
Do diaphragms interrupt the moment? How should we deal with spermicide? What about vaginal tenting and checking the time.. David from Ethical Family Planning advises that
Hormonal coils such as Mirena and Jaydess may not have fewer side effects and that’s not all we’ve been mistaken about. “I thought I wasn’t attracted to him anymore…” And why are doctors encouraging them so heavily
What is it and why is this the contraception that every single woman should try? ‘I don’t know why more people aren’t using them’.. more pleasurable than condoms for myself and my partner
But once you start taking notice you might be pretty surprised at how often your brain gives you little insults that are subtly weaved into your day to day thinking. The Alien, allows you to consider them objectively. This removes the power they have over you
The ‘ideal’ version of sex is all around us; beautiful and busy. The kinkyness in books, the bragging in… many of us secretly fear that we do not match up… Michael Kimmel asked male college students what proportion of their classmates had sex on any given weekend
Most people have never heard of The Yellow Card Scheme – if you’ve experienced side effects from your contraception you should probably get to know, so that we can have a better picture and get better options
Doesn’t hormonal birth control protect you from certain diseases? As well as synthetic hormones being less beneficial than your natural ones, when using hormonal contraception your body becomes accustomed to being fed the synthetic hormones and so once you stop taking them
Which pill should you choose? How do you know which is best? All are not created equal. As a doctor, he would not allow his daughter to take third and fourth generation contraception. Side effects vary depending on the ingredients
Is the combined pill the right option for what you’ll be getting up to? All the things to consider before you decide to spit or swallow… Find out if you’re one of those who mustn’t take it
Good news if you love white skinny jeans, bad news if you love fish and bees. The combined pill is The Original; it was the first ever hormonal contraceptive and therefore we have more data on this method than any other type. This is important
Lawsuits, pop stars, sacrificial sex; the world of contraception is darker and more exciting than we would first think. But I bet you don’t even know all the options