Consider this common experience; you fuck someone, you leave (you don’t want to stay for breakfast because jesus lord you do not want to have to hear their life story), later that day you look back on it… We’re often completely oblivious to the fact that we are doing it
Not just confidence like ‘raahhh I’m gunna fuck you until you cum so hard’. But the confidence to say what you’re thinking, or to ask for more or less of something, or to ask if they want more or less of something, or to try out some scenario you’ve imagined..
You want to take a drug that might shrink your dick by 20%? … But secretly they’re thinking ‘man, can she really not take it?! Our lives would be so much easier!’ Which is fair enough if you don’t fully understand hormonal contraception
A study published in the Journal of Neuroscience has found that a neuropeptide can influence how men in relationships respond to meeting a new peng woman … None of this is particularly reassuring for long distance relationships
Confidence is like Bitcoin. Anyone can get it, but a lot of people simply don’t know how. And once you’ve got some, the easier it is to get more… When these three aspects of your life are in line; interacting with people and achieving things becomes easier
“IT’S SHIT – GET RID OF IT – SHUT IT DOWN”. A human being is an organism made up billions of small components; that all must communicate and work as a cohesive whole. Bacteria, red blood cells, neurons. Each weak link or stressor has a knock on effect on the rest of the system. So too with a country.
However today, she asked what kind of porn I’m in to. I stalled and managed to get away from the topic without answering, but she’ll definitely bring it up again soon… I disagree with all the comments saying not to tell her. Well you don’t have to tell her right away
I’ve had problems with my sex life in past relationships, and thought ‘Ah if I was single l could be having loads of sex whenever and with whomever I want.’ But as soon as I was single I thought ‘Sex is cool and all, but having someone to cuddle in the morning is also pretty fucking rad.’
So you want it. And they don’t. Or you can feel them looking at you with hopeful eyes, but you sure as hell aren’t in the mood. Again. But no fear, the beauty of this issue is that there are so many solutions
You know you’re a good person right? Rational, empathetic, strong. But sometimes you do the wrong thing, or find people impossible, or get stuck in some kind of recurring problem. Why? Imagine yourself as an onion.
Don’t watch porn when you’re having the exploratory wanks, because it will interrupt your focus. The more comfortable you are with your own body, the more assertive you can be. Communication is key but only in the right way
Women try too hard to make theirs tiny and cute and soft, whereas men feel like theirs aren’t allowed to be tiny and cute and soft. When in fact, we should all just acknowledge that YES our bits are pretty freaking mad to behold, but they are also lovely.
The ‘ideal’ version of sex is all around us; beautiful and busy. The kinkyness in books, the bragging in… many of us secretly fear that we do not match up… Michael Kimmel asked male college students what proportion of their classmates had sex on any given weekend