However today, she asked what kind of porn I’m in to. I stalled and managed to get away from the topic without answering, but she’ll definitely bring it up again soon… I disagree with all the comments saying not to tell her. Well you don’t have to tell her right away
I’ve had problems with my sex life in past relationships, and thought ‘Ah if I was single l could be having loads of sex whenever and with whomever I want.’ But as soon as I was single I thought ‘Sex is cool and all, but having someone to cuddle in the morning is also pretty fucking rad.’
So you want it. And they don’t. Or you can feel them looking at you with hopeful eyes, but you sure as hell aren’t in the mood. Again. But no fear, the beauty of this issue is that there are so many solutions
You know you’re a good person right? Rational, empathetic, strong. But sometimes you do the wrong thing, or find people impossible, or get stuck in some kind of recurring problem. Why? Imagine yourself as an onion.
Don’t watch porn when you’re having the exploratory wanks, because it will interrupt your focus. The more comfortable you are with your own body, the more assertive you can be. Communication is key but only in the right way
Women try too hard to make theirs tiny and cute and soft, whereas men feel like theirs aren’t allowed to be tiny and cute and soft. When in fact, we should all just acknowledge that YES our bits are pretty freaking mad to behold, but they are also lovely.