Giving head is my number one pleasure.
Being fucked from behind with a butt plug in my arse and the freedom to touch myself as I please.
A power dynamic.
The race for an orgasm, my own included.
The need to perform.
The way I masturbate seems to define the way I orgasm during sex.
Tense, quick and not 100% present.
I once read a karma sutra book about the joys of making mindful love to yourself. I tried it and it was great. But when it comes down to it alone and with others my habitual groove is hard to avoid.
Maintaining a high sex drive with a long term partner.
Deciding to give myself time to become aroused even if I am not in the mood. Perhaps I could be.